If Not Now, Then When?
I personally hate waiting…
When I am waiting for something it feels like I accept the fact that it won’t happen until a certain period of time has passed. It makes me feel powerless. It makes me feel as if things depend on anything but me…
But waiting is something totally normal. We all do it… all the time.
From a very young age we are taught to wait… Even for trivial things such as having to wait for the end of the dinner to get to the dessert (well I sometimes have a dessert instead of dinner, but that’s beyond the point).
Children can’t wait to grow up… Naive little creatures don’t realize it’s a trap :) I was one of them…
But what happens when we grow up? We end up waiting on a bigger scale… because we start feeling what children don’t - fear enters our life.
Fear of judgment, fear of failure… of being unliked and misunderstood, of not being invited and accepted…
So we keep postponing things for later… but we never tell anyone the true reason why… which I think is we hope by then we won’t be afraid.
Eventually what happens is we postpone building our dreams, following our passion, getting rid of certain things that make our life miserable… we wait for the right time to start doing things that we’d like to.
How many times have you heard the phrases like “As soon as the kids grow up…”, “When I have more time…” , “When I find a well-paid job…” , “As soon as we pay the mortgage…”.
The sad truth is that very often we and that “right time” never meet up. Just like the horizon… we keep walking towards it but the distance between us seems to stay the same.
The reality proves that you will never have the ideal conditions. There will never be the perfect moment. Life will continue getting on the way and things will keep happening. There will always be something new coming between you and your plans. Always!
How can you be so sure about the future? How can you take the risk of putting off the things that are important to you? What if that right moment never arrives? What if something happens in-between?
Why do we think that time is not precious? Why do we often start living only after a major paradigm shift? Do we have to survive an accident or get cancer or lose someone we loved in order to understand that wasting even more time is stupid?
You may say that you’ve got too many obligations and time-consuming responsibilities. And I won’t argue back. Not because I know you – most probably I don’t. I won’t argue back because we all do have those.
Do you think that all the successful people were completely free, with no family, no money issues, no problems at all?
Well, I have to disappoint you there.
Most of the successful people were exactly in your shoes before. They too had things to deal with, they too did not have the ideal time to take action… but the difference is – they did not wait. They did not sit and wait for the perfect moment. They did not wait until they had time. They made time for the things which were important to them.
Often people - even those I don’t know well - end up sharing their stories and hopes and dreams… Often they talk about something they hope to do “one day”.
One day? Which day?
Do you think you will wake up from a knock on the door and when you open it you’ll see that “one day” on your doorway saying“ I’ve come you can start now” ?
Something tells me that might never happen…
What if instead of waiting for that one day you start now? Sooner you start the probability that you’ll actually make it happen will get higher.
But if you keep sticking to that dangerous future tense you will risk staying where you are now for a very long time….
Do you really want to let your entire life become a waiting room?
No?
Then stop waiting and start acting.
Alright, that was all for now Rebel.
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